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Facts, Tips & Free Resources

Here are some facts, tips and free resources to help you be at your best…for you and your kids.

FACT: 50% of adult mental health problems begin by age 14.
FACT: An individual’s experience of trauma impacts every area of human functioning — physical, mental, behavioral, social, spiritual.
FACT: 70-90% of people report improved quality of life after receiving treatment or support.

Nurturing Your Emotional Health

If your emotional health has been challenged, or you believe you may have a mental health problem, it can be helpful to talk about these issues with others. It can be scary to reach out for help, but it is often the first step to helping you heal, grow, and recover. Having a good support system and engaging with trustworthy people are key elements to successfully talking about your own mental health.

Building Your Support System

Find someone—such as a parent, family member, teacher, faith leader, health care provider or other trusted individual, who:

  •  Gives good advice when you want and ask for it; assists you in taking action that will help
  • Likes, respects, and trusts you and who you like, respect, and trust, too
  • Allows you the space to change, grow, make decisions, and even make mistakes
  • Listens to you and shares with you, both the good and bad times, and without judgement or criticism
  • Respects your need for confidentiality so you can tell him or her anything
  • Has your best interest in mind

[source mentalhealth.org]

Make Self-Care a Priority

To be able to care for the people you love, you must first take care of yourself. It’s like the advice we’re given on airplanes: put on your own oxygen mask before trying to help someone else with theirs. Parents and caregivers who pay attention to their own physical and emotional health are better able to handle the challenges of supporting someone else’s emotional health. The ups and downs of life can have a huge impact on you. Focusing on self-care will make you more resilient, and help you weather hard times and enjoy good ones. Here are some suggestions to start engaging today:

  • Get enough sleep. Adults generally need between seven and nine hours of sleep. A brief nap—up to 30 minutes—can help you feel alert again during the day. Even 15 minutes of daytime sleep is helpful.
  • Exercise daily. Daily exercise naturally produces stress-relieving hormones in your body and improves your overall health.
  • Eat well. Healthy eating can help lower your risk for chronic diseases, and help stabilize your energy levels and mood.
  • Avoid alcohol and drugs. They don’t actually reduce stress and often worsen it. If you’re struggling with substance use, visit www.sjcbhs.org.
  • Practice relaxation exercises. Deep breathing, meditation and muscle relaxation are easy, quick ways to reduce stress.

[source: nami.org]

Supporting Your Child’s Emotional Health

Because children often can't understand difficult situations on their own, you should pay particular attention and lend extra support when a child is experiencing:

  • Loss of a loved one
  • Divorce or separation of their parents
  • Any major transition—new home, new school, etc.
  • Traumatic life experiences, like living through a natural disaster
  • Teasing or bullying
  • Difficulties in school or with classmates

[Source: MentalHealth.gov]

It is also important to be aware of warning signs that your child may be struggling. You can play a critical role in knowing when your child may need help and ensuring they get the right support.

Consult with your child’s doctor, a school counselor, school nurse, emotional wellness provider, or another health care professional if your child shows one or more of the following behaviors:

  • Feeling very sad or withdrawn for more than two weeks
  • Seriously trying to harm or kill himself or herself, or making plans to do so
  • Experiencing sudden overwhelming fear for no reason, sometimes with a racing heart or fast breathing
  • Not eating, throwing up, or using laxatives to make himself or herself lose weight
  • Experiencing extreme difficulty controlling behavior, putting himself or herself in physical danger or causing problems in school
  • Using drugs or alcohol repeatedly
  • Showing drastic changes in behavior or personality

[Source: https://www.mentalhealth.gov/talk/parents-caregivers]

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